Created: July 7, 2024 | Last Updated: December 25, 2025
Current Status: Single and genuinely looking to meet someone special
Hey, Shray here! I grew up in Antwerp, studied at the University of Michigan, and I'm now splitting time between London and Antwerp.
I'm 28, 5'9"ish, and looking to date women between 25 and 33. I'm monogamous, agnostic/atheist, techno-optimistic, and hold liberal views. Long-term, I see myself settling in SF, NYC, or London (cities that match my ambitions and energy).
I want a Wong Kar-Wai romance grounded in real life.
By that I mean: someone whose company makes the mundane meaningful. Grocery shopping becomes an adventure. Waiting for the tube becomes time we look forward to because we're together. The ordinary moments matter as much as the extraordinary ones.
I'm looking for what Tim Urban calls the essential ingredients:
I want a partner who's building something they care about (whether that's a career, a creative pursuit, or a contribution to something bigger than themselves). Not because I'm screening for ambition as a checkbox, but because I want someone who understands what it's like to be deeply invested in making something exist in the world.
I'm happy to start with coffee or video calls to see if there's a connection. I'm open to taking things slowly, but I should be upfront: I'm not interested in anything purely casual or without the potential to go somewhere real.
What you can expect:
I want to understand what makes you tick: your work, your eccentric hobbies, the book that changed how you see things, what you're building toward, etc.